Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Life Triumphs Over Death: Dear Baby Bender

This past month had been designated as Respect Life Month by United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB). I think its so fitting considering the fact that we are deep in battle against the abortion powerhouse, Planned Parenthood, to stop giving them government funding. Planned Parenthood and other abortion providers make their living on scared, young pregnant women searching for a way to hide a "mistake" by following with another mistake.
We have watched in unsurprising fashion as the President of Planned Parenthood, Cecile Richards, tells the truth about their business practices for the first time. Things are changing in our world. People are fed up with being afraid and scared. Young men and women are stepping up and being the fathers and mothers that their new born children deserve. I’m so proud of the determination and courage that so many have showed to give young innocent life a chance to live.
I found out 5 months ago that my fiancĂ© and I are expecting. I would be lying if I said I wasn’t scared for my life. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t scared now either. Already I feel my life changing and the stress increasing. New responsibilities are being added each and every day. This is new territory for me. I never thought I would be in this position, but I can already tell you it has been the most beautiful and fruitful experience.

Dear Baby Bender,
I cannot wait to meet you and give you all the love, kindness and gentleness in my heart that you deserve. Hearing your heartbeat and seeing your little body for the first time was the single-greatest thing I have ever heard and seen in my entire life. You are such a miracle, and I cannot wait to introduce you to the world and to everyone I meet.
I can't wait to to hold you when you cry, console you, and soothe you. Let it out and have yourself a good cry. I will probably cry with you.
I can't wait to show you joy and make you laugh for the first time. Your laugh will turn any one of my bad days immediately better.
I can't wait to show you off to all of my family and friends and shout out loud how unbelievably proud I am of my Baby Bender.  
I can't wait to bring you to church with us (with a pacifier, of course) and show you how deeply God loves you, guiding you through preparation for all of the sacraments.
I can't wait to bring you into the world and demonstrate, together with your mom, that life always triumphs over death and can bring light to the darkness of any situation.
I love you Baby Bender! Can't wait to see you soon!

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  1. John,

    I am shocked to read that you are proudly announcing the pregnancy of your soon to be bride.
    Unless things have drastically changed, I understood the church's teachings were for young adults to get married FIRST before they engaged in sexual activity. I find it more than a little disturbing that in your position, your job is to 'encourage and inspire' the young adult community to develop a deeper relationship with Christ, and here I am reading how you have clearly engaged in premarital sexual activity, got your fiance pregnant and proudly blog about it as if have done nothing wrong. As the parent of two young adults, you, and the behavior you have discussed here are NOT what I have taught my children to live by. It is more than a little concerning that the Archdiocese is condoning your blog with it being in direct contradiction to our faith's teachings.

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  3. Dear Catholic Mom, I don't think that John ever says that he is proud to announce the pregnancy, but simply states that this is the situation he now finds himself in. It's not for the reader to analyze the state of his soul regarding sexual activity-that is for God to do and is normally handled between John, his bride, and his confessor, not here on a blog. I can see how as a mother you would be distraught to find a column about a pregnancy conceived outside of marriage on a Catholic blog intended for young adults to be problematic, but I don't see that John is encouraging others to follow in his footsteps, rather, he is pointing out that this new life, however it came to be, is loved and blessed by God. Truly, aren't we all sinners in need of God's mercy? Sadly, I sense very little mercy in your comment. In this wondrous Year of Mercy, perhaps you would appreciate another viewpoint on this same topic to help you come to terms with new lives brought about in unconventional manners: http://aleteia.org/2015/12/31/grace-upon-grace-in-the-womb-of-the-church/ Also of note, he does not work for the Archdiocese and it's highly unlikely that they even know of the existence of this blog. May your New Year be blessed with love, goodness and peace.